Ditching Dannon for Good!

Dannon can take their guilt and food and hit the road! I am ditching you, Dannon, for good.

Where are the women who enjoy food and do not feel guilt for doing so? I want to hear who you are and see you stand up and be proud. Let’s unite and promote a life of living and freedom and choosing to eat what we want rather than what companies like Dannon, say are “good and bad”.

I was watching television the other evening and felt a mix of many emotions after watching a current Dannon Light & Fit commercial. I felt anger and sadness about the message they are sending…the message that one must feel guilty for enjoying foods this company considers “bad”. I felt sad that so many women fall for this gimmicky marketing and begin to restrict themselves form enjoying all foods and living in a rigid rule based world of “good and bad” foods.

For those of you whom are not familiar with the commercial, let me describe the scenario that angers me to the point of no belief. In addition, here is the link to the Ad,  so you can witness this disordered message for yourself and hopefully choose to reject their message and instead allow yourself the freedom and enjoyment of eating all foods without labeling them “good” and “bad” and feeling freedom from this disordered thinking.

The commercial shows a woman going through her day while a man with a bullhorn follows her, shouting the names of foods she is avoiding, “Donuts! Cookies! Chips!”. He is labeling all these foods as “bad”. Food on its own has no moral values.  People like the man with the bullhorn create them. The fact that the man is labeling these as “bad” is what is wrong. The part where the women ignores all of her carvings for these foods and chooses a yogurt instead is worse.

The idea that the women is ignoring what she wants and will not allow herself to listen to her body and cravings and give herself what it is she is really wanting is sad. She is neglecting to listen to her feminine intuition, and instead an ad that is trying to sell their product by labeling other foods as being “bad”. What is “bad” in this situation is that the woman ignores her own desires. This is not okay! We are all intuitive and need to trust ourselves and be kind to ourselves.

Dannon portrays the woman as being a courageous warrior in her fight against the “bad” foods, yet we don’t see the truth… the point when the woman realizes she has denied herself of what she is really craving and eventually chooses to listen to her craving, eat it, then feel guilty about doing so. The sad part is, the only reason she is feeling guilty about listeing to herself and her wants is due to companies like Dannon which state that her craving was “bad”. However, we have to take responsibility and not fall victim to this disordered thinking. We can listen to our wants and feed ourselves what we want and say “No!” To the guilt and man with the bullhorn trying to brainwash us into feeling bad. We don’t see the part where the woman realizes that the yogurt does not provide the same flavor and fulfillment as a real meal does.

My question is “When will a company come out with an ad where they show a woman eating food and enjoying it? Eating food that isn’t “Light, fat free,etc” and just food that tastes good????!!!

Jeans for YOUR Genes Campaign

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Good morning my friends! I am happy to announce a NEW campaign being launched starting today and will be running throughout the Spring Season, our first Jeans for YOUR Genes Campaign!

Jeans for our Genes Campaign celebrates healthy body image and positive self-esteem through a jeans drive. Working in Partnership with The Center for Hope of NOVA, this northern Virginia jean collection is designed to encourage healthy lifestyles and realistic body image and acceptance.

We are encouraging everyone to clean out their closets this Spring and donate jeans that no longer fir or ones they do not feel comfortable in, the Be Me Foundation will sell back these jeans to local consignment shops to raise money for the scholarship fund at The Center for Hope of NOVA, which will provide men and women treatment when they cannot afford it.

By donating your jeans, you are delivering a powerful message of self-acceptance and being true to yourself!

If you are in the Northern Virginia, DC, Maryland area, you can drop your jeans off at The Center for Hope of NOVA  on Saturdays from 10 am to noon. If you are unable to drop them off please mail them to us!

We need your help so we can help others recover! Please pass this along to your friends and family.

As Always…Be YOU,

Jenn B.

NEW scholarship Fund for Treatment!

Good afternoon my friends! I hope you are enjoying your weekend. It’s a pretty busy weekend over here with the launch of new fundraising that will be explained below,  as well as supporting the DC NEDA walk tomorrow!

I am very excited to share with you some amazing things the  BE ME Foundation has been putting together. Be Me is partnering up with The Center for Hope of NOVA to help those in need of treatment but cannot afford it. This scholarship fund will help people be able to have their much deserved chance at life and recovery! How exciting, right??!!

How can you help and take part in this amazing cause?

Well, I know that there are many of you whom know someone  suffering from an eating disorder.There are many men and women who have been through too much suffering and deserve the opportunity to receive treatment for healing and a chance at life. Both BE ME and The Center for HOPE, have chosen to no longer turn our heads when we know an individual is needing treatment  to heal their suffering, but that the cost is too much.  We have decided to partner up on this scholarship fund because the price is too high, to turn our heads and accept this. We will do something to help!

The scholarship fund will allow The Center for Hope of NOVA, to treat 10+ men and women in their journey to healing.

The total need is $145,000. Which provides ten individuals Intensive Outpatient Services.

We believe that BE ME, The center for HOPE and YOU, can help make this dream a reality. We can raise $10,000 THIS month.

Here’s the plan: Each of us donate $10 and ask 10 friends to do the same. It’s that simple. If 100 of us can do that, we can raise $10,000 this next month.

These men and women are worth it!!!!

So, the question is, Will you help us? Will you donate $10? Will you put it on your Facebook and ask your friends/family/coworkers to donate $10? Will you email people? Tweet people?

Will you ask people at the grocery store or your local faith community or school or business?!  :-)

We will stand with those suffering and in need of treatment and hope. We will honor them and love them. We will send the message to the world that we will not look away from their suffering any longer, and instead will raise our voices and shout the truth that there is hope!

Please visit the Ways to Help page at the BE ME Foundation to contribute to this amazing scholarship fund!

As Always…Be YOU,

Jenn B. 

I AM Me.

Good evening my friends! I am hoping you are enjoying your Good Friday and getting ready for the Easter weekend.

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Recently, I had a few people ask me why I wasn’t on Pinterest. And to be honest, I have no interest to join. You can read more on why I choose not, here. But to get to the point quickly,  it is because I find Pinterest an easy way to engage in self comparison. I don’t need to have another media outlet that provides just  another way for me to compare my life to others.  Because I am me. And there is no one to compare ‘ME’ to.

You see, as much as I know this it is difficult at times to be doing it. To be, being me. I believe “being me” is a skill I continue to learn as well an innate gift that is within each one of us, when we are created and born into this world.

In the past, it was difficult for me to recognize the difference between me “being me” and me comparing myself to others (attempting to be like others).  I am so happy that I never gave up on the journey of discovering who I am and learning how to Be Me, instead of attempting to be like others or who they wanted me to be (by their expectations of me).

I have learned “being me” well and enjoy learning more each day.

Remember, that YOU are YOU. You were created and born to Be YOU. Please continue being YOU.

I have heard too many people compare themselves to events, looks, and statuses of others. I have heard comments about how one person is feeling less than another person, after reading a friend’s Facebook status or reading an “inspirational” quote on Pinterest, feeling as though they are in need of being more like another person. Please step back from social media and embrace your own thoughts and listen to your own heart. You have the answers and know what is best for you. Because what works for one person does not mean it’s best for YOU.

Do you ever fall into the trap of comparing YOU to another? 

As always Be YOU,

Jenn B. 

Riding the waves!

 

Do recovery, love life!

When I first started surfing at the beginning of hurricane season in the year 2001, I was blown away by how similar it was to recovery (and blown away by the strong hurricane winds).

As I began  getting to know the beach, each surf session became more familiar as I accepted  the ever changing tides, and how the bottom of the ocean affected the way the waves broke that day. Usually there’s a dip in the floor of the ocean that is close to shore that creates a spot for the waves to break – perfect place to catch a wave right? So very wrong… I soon learned after eating sand too many times!

This is where surfing relates to recovery. I paddle out and then a wave curls itself over me, sending me into somersaults under water.  I feel  like a sock  in the washer machine on spin cycle. In those moments, all I am doing is trying to stop spinning and rolling, and make my way up to the surface, so that I can gasp some air into my lungs…so that I can BREATHE!

Because I am persistent in “catching a wave” , it isn’t long before I catch my breath,  find my board, and go at it again; only to be clobbered by waves repeatedly. This is what ED (the eating disorder) can feel  like. It can leave you feeling hopeless at your attempts to recovering.  It can have you feeling like you can’t move anywhere and that you will never be able to breathe for more than just a few moments. It can leave you wondering, why do I even keep trying?

The answer will  be found when you don’t give up and you keep going!  Because FINALLY, you will get to the “outside”, past the whitewater waves  breaking, and you will get to a calm place where you can sit for a moment, regain some strength until you feel strong enough to go at it again. You can paddle into the waves hoping you will get your balance and stay on top of the water, and ride the wave into the shore.

Too many times, you may feel as though you are going straight back to being clobbered by waves, but soon, something happens and you catch a wave and you find yourself STANDING UP!!! This is like the moment in recovery where you finally find some freedom. Where you have a moment of defeating ED and see a glimpse of life where you are YOU again.  Yes, you’ll have to keep fighting the waves. Yes, you’ll have to keep practicing standing up on your surfboard – but soon, you’ll be standing on your surfboard all the time!

Like I said, when I first started surfing, I saw how similar to recovery it was.  Last year, we had some good waves and I got up a few times at the beginning of the session, but then I began to struggle and couldn’t get up again. I stood near the shore with the waves lapping against my shins holding my board on top of my head trying to analyze what I was doing wrong. Maybe I was trying to take too many waves and I needed to be more patient and wait for the right one? Maybe I was just getting tired and needed a break?

When I  went back out again and kept falling off my board every time I tried. I finally took a time out and  sat  on the shore to think  about  what I could do differently, since I was only exhausting myself by doing what it is I was. After watching the surfers from the shore, I realized that maybe I needed to try becoming one with the wave instead of  trying to control how the waves move (because that is impossible) and begin learning  to follow its’ direction.

Needless to say, I didn’t really catch many more waves that day, but my self reflection of “fighting against the waves”  hit me later that night. It meant many things to me. And it may mean something to you too. Do you have a vision of what recovery  is “supposed” to look like? Does this vision look similar to your own vision of recovery?

Just like I was trying to “fight the waves” instead of “riding them” are there still things from your eating disorder that you won’t let go of and surrender to? Maybe these are things that are being suggested by your therapist and treatment team?   Maybe these are things  they know can challenge you in your recovery to help you move forward, but your ED is telling you to “fight” these suggestions, instead of “riding” along with them?

Take a moment to sit on the shore and think about what you may be  feeling you are  ”fighting” against. Practice listening to your heart see if it scares you to listen to it? Remember that the way are you “fighting the waves”, instead of ” going with the waves”  that are being suggested to you by those who love and support you, it  will lead you in the recovery direction, you are  meant to go to!

What is one thing you are “fighting” recovery on? I encourage you to practice “riding” the wave of recovery instead : )

As Always, Be YOU,

Jenn B.

No longer Optional.

Take each meal and snack one moment at a time. You deserve nourishment and life!

Take each meal and snack one moment at a time. You deserve nourishment and life!

 

Good Morning my friends! I hope you are enjoying your Tuesday so far.  Recently, I have been detecting a theme among those I am mentoring and counseling. The theme has been one that many people in recovery with an Eating Disorder can relate to, so I thought it would be best to share it with all my readers.

Let’s start off by stating the importance of getting professional help when struggling with an eating disorder. If you are struggling yourself or know of someone who is, please encourage them to receive the professional help that is required.  If you need guidance in doing so, please contact me and I can help you find resources in your area.

Now, let’s move on to one aspect of this professional help that I just mentioned, a nutritionist whom specializes in Eating Disorders. It is important to find a professional who knows the dangers, complications and all issues regrading nourishing our bodies and how the Eating Disorder takes a toll on our physical health. It is important to be aware of the physical complications that can occur when engaging in dangerous eating disorder behaviors. Our physical health can be met by properly nourishing our bodies and making the effort to stop engaging in eating disordered behaviors.

The best words of wisdom I can give you is to no longer view your meal plan as “optional.”  Early in my recovery when I planned and wrote out my meal plan, I wrote in big letters at the top “Behaviors are NOT an option.”  You have to view your meal plan as your instructions for the day that HAVE to be followed…no ifs, ands, or buts about it!

Another thing I did to stop me from being overwhelmed with the meal plan was to fold my meal plan, so that I could only see breakfast. At lunchtime, I’d unfold it so I could see lunch, and so on.  I did this for each meal and snack that was “prescribed” to me. This helped me to just focus on the present, which seemed more manageable.

Also,  setting up accountability with someone helps a lot.  This is where your treatment team can come into play, your therapist and nutritionist can be your  accountability buddies!

Following your meal plan can be difficult, especially in the beginning, but it will get easier with time.  I know that’s probably hard to believe right now, but trust me!  I’m speaking from experience.  Instead of “trying” to follow your meal plan, tell yourself “I WILL follow my meal plan today.”  And when you do, make sure you tell us here so we can celebrate with you!  No step is ever too small to celebrate!  : )

Always Be YOU,

Jenn B.

It’s not too late!!!!

Good evening my friends! I hope you are enjoying your Friday and gearing up for the weekend. I wanted to stop in and let you in on a little secret:

Here’s the thing:

You are amazing now. You are enough in this moment. You can start again, right this second.

Each moment is a chance to choose recovery.

Hop back into bed, pull your covers over your head and have yourself a “do over” waking up to a day of choosing to live in recovery.

No matter what you have done today, what you have said today, it is not too late for you to return to recovery and sink into a loving relationship with YOU and kick ED to the curb.

My favorite all time tool? Telling myself:

Does this feel like Recovery? If not, You can choose recovery right this second!

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Just in case you needed a reminder to trust and love YOU and kick ED to the curb this weekend : )

And for those of you in the Northern VA, DC area…join us tomorrow morning for a FREE Eating disorder support group at 11 am. You can even pack your lunch to stay for meal support. Click here for details!

Always Be YOU,

Jenn B.

Stop the War on Your Body!

How can you stop the war on your Body? By learning to listen to your inner voice of truth. This is how I maintain a healthy body image in a society overridden by Low Calorie Diets, Expensive manicured finger nails and outrageously  promise laden exercises of Cross Fit: I think about what rings true for me. What my authentic voice knows to be true, not societal expectations of me. 

I’m not saying that an unhealthy relationship with our bodies is caused entirely by societal expectations such as the  sell of super fit  or supermodel thin magazine models that are seen on airbrushed celebrity magazines. In fact, this is one of the biggest myths of eating disorders and distorted body images. However, I do know that body image does have something to do with eating disorders, but not everything! It is a trigger, a symptom and more often times a byproduct of eating disorders. But  what I am saying is  the media does continually perpetuate an unhealthy ideal of beauty and of the “perfect” body. Often times, someone struggling with their body image, can compare themselves to these unrealistic images when trying to determine their self-worth. This is dangerous to do. 

For those struggling with an eating disorder, behaviors can be an attempt to cope with mental and emotional anguish. But when by engaging in harmful eating disorder behaviors one is wreaking havoc on their body. This war with ones’ body is often times about control, perfection and trying to get the pain inside ones’ mind and heart to go away or at least lessen some. 

The truth is that Healing and Recovery from an Eating Disorder are possible. Discovering peace with ones’ body and developing a healthy body image can be done. One way is to be aware of our own thoughts and feelings and learning how to enhance ourselves, by being who we are and not surrendering to our insecurities and societal expectations. Instead,  we can learn to listen to our inner voice and begin appreciating ourselves for traits and talents that are not wrapped up in our physical appearance.This is a difficult process and support is available. You are not alone. 

If you are in the Northern Virginia, DC areas please consider joining me on Tuesdays for a weekly Body Image therapy group at The Center for Hope of NOVA. Where we can discuss this war on our bodies and help you begin feeling comfortable in your own skin!

Always Be YOU,

Jenn B.

Be YOU-er!

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Good afternoon my friends! This week is NEDAwareness Week 2013. There are so many ways to participate. Please read the NEDA site for some ideas for how you may want to take part and be sure to leave a comment and share with others. We would all love to hear on what you choose to do!

This week Be Me wants to thank all of you for reading and supporting our mission. We honor each and every one of YOU and hope that you realize as well that is an honor to BE YOU.

List one thing that you believe makes YOU, You-er!

As always BE YOU,

Jenn

Self love and self care guidelines

Good Morning my friends! I am surprised it’s already Friday. Anyone else feel like this week has gone by fast? What are your plans for the weekend? I hope they involve some self-care and self-love!

Good Morning my friends! I am surprised it’s already Friday. Anyone else feel like this week has gone by fast? What are your plans for the weekend? I hope they involve some self-care and self-love!

Speaking of self-care, it is very important that we give ourselves self-care and self-love every day. A structure outlines a good plan for self-care is “GRAPES”. It’s encouraged to select one thing from each category to build up your self -care and self-love tool box!

Remember to take time each day to Be YOU. To love and care for YOU.

Remember to take time each day to Be YOU. To love and care for YOU.

G: Be Gentle with yourself. Let go of perfectionism and practice positive self-talk instead of beating yourself up. An example of this is reminding yourself that YOU are enough just the way you are. Life is imperfect and things happen. Talk to yourself the way you would to a best friend, child and someone close to you. YOU deserve the kindness as well, just for being YOU.

R: Relaxation. Do something that calms you. Listen to relaxing music, take deep breathes, take a warm bath, read an inspirational devotional, sit in prayer, watch your favorite TV show, etc.

A: Accomplishments. Get something on your “To Do” list checked off. Choose one thing, no matter how “small”. The “small” things matter too. Remember not to stay focused only on your “To Do” list because we are striving for self-care and self-love, not getting caught up in perfectionism and busyness.

P: Pleasure. Choose something that you enjoy! An example is meeting friends for dinner at a favorite restaurant, buying your favorite dessert, watching your favorite TV show, painting your nails, whatever makes you smile!

E: Gentle Exercise. ONLY if this is part of your recovery plan. E is optional and not recommended for every day. It is meant to be enjoyable not the “E” does not stand for Exertion. An example of this is yoga, stretching, walking a few times a week.

S: Socialize. Call a friend, get out of the house and browse a book store, attend a meeting, meet a friend for dinner.

And whenever, you are doubting your actions, refer back to “G”.

What is one thing that YOU do each day to practice self-love and self-care?