Good Morning my friends! How are you spending this lovely holiday weekend? With the extra time off, I have something special to share with you and hope you may find it useful.
Have you heard of The Five Love Languages? According to this theory, they are as follows:
Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch.
Every person feels uniquely loved in one of these ways. Specifically, the way you feel loved is also the way you show love.
For instance, one of my Love Language is Acts of Service, which makes sense because I strongly agree with the notion that,”actions speak louder than words”. A kind and thoughtful act goes a long way for me and it aligns with the way I show appreciation for other people. An “Let me do that for you” after a long day makes me feel acknowledged and loved and I like to do the same in return.
The disconnect can lie in the fact that those we love may have a different language than our own. Your partner, friend, parent or child’s love language can be something you aren’t used to expressing. For example, someone I love can have the Love Language, Words of Affirmation, which means my Acts of Service will not have the same impact on them. Instead, an ”I love you” or “job well done” would make them feel acknowledged for things they’re doing right and they would like to do the same in return.
I’m curious to know what your love language is (take the test here), and how you’ve reconciled having a different language from your loved ones, a partner, friendship and parent/child relationships!